What you want, what you don’t want

Dear friend,

Wherever you are in your life right now in terms of how you feel about yourself, your self esteem, your level of confidence, whether you feel anxiety, stress, frustration… etc…

You must now start your journey towards changing these problems around into new learnings and experiences that serve you from now on…

To start this process you must first accept these problems and fully come to terms with your current life circumstances; Its only once you do this you can start moving towards what you want, allowing you to measure your ongoing results and overcome limitations more easily.

First, lets focus on what you really want because this is much more important. You want to move towards what you want, not what you don’t want.

So while your here…

What are some of the feelings, beliefs and new habits that you really want for yourself and to experience in your life? What will truly full-fill you if you had it right now? And what would these experiences be like once you have them?

Write out a small list.

Now that you have become clearer about what you want and how you will feel once you have it. Let us figure out what gets in your way of achieving these goals.

Write down a list and think of all the habits, beliefs and/or actions that you do or feel on a daily basis that prevent you from achieving your goals.

What limitations do you have right now?

And If they weren’t there, how much closer would you be to achieving your goals?

How much more easier would it be to create what you want, without limitations?

As you address your limitations you may find that they come in forms of…

“I want to achieve this, but….”

Or…

“”I cant create a better life, because…”

Figure out and write down a list of all the things that prevent you from gaining what you really want.

Once you begin to become aware of these hindrances, you will be able to learn from them in ways that empower you, and use these positive new learnings to make you stronger and move closer towards your future achievements.

Remember, that it is more important to focus on and move towards what you want to create in your life!

Its not a good thing to wait, but its not a good thing to rush either.

Don’t invest your time and energy in negative emotions anymore, only use them as a means of reminding you of what you have set out to create in your life.

Sincerely,

Nicholas Finnegan

To be a follower or to be an individual, that is the question.

Dear friend,

There is a big difference between what you think you want and what will truly and deeply fulfill you.

As you ponder about what your life is like right now, do you find that everything you have is a result of what you’ve been taught to chase after, or is it a result of what you chose and deeply want to be filled up with?

A dog needs an owner to teach it what to do, an owl is wise enough to figure it all out on it’s own.

The owl is its own being. It studies carefully and awareness becomes expanded when a task needs to be completed, such as eating a small rabbit, a mouse and their favorite dish – skunk.

The dog rely’s on an owner to be fed and cared for. It scurries around looking for food and picks up the scraps people leave behind, even if they know it isn’t good for them, and most of the time aren’t even aware of it in the long run.

The dog learns habits, where as the owl chooses and creates them!

Owls live in many places. Owls live in tree trunks, farms, in bushes, in forests. Sometimes owls live in old buildings, barns and even cactus’s.

Dogs either sleep inside an owners house or stray outside in the cold. A few of them even get locked up in cages.

So…

As you begin to become as wise as the owl, you will find your sense of possibility and self beginning to expand. As a wiser person you will find you have complete choice to create whatever you want in life without limitation.

Once you adapt to this mindset (the mindset of individuality and wisdom) and begin to make this attitude more apparent for yourself in your life today… Would you still be living the life you currently have right now?

… I didn’t think so!

… Because you begin to live your life based on your own decisions and what will truly and deeply fulfill you as a person in your life, NOT what other people think or have taught what is best for you to do and/or be.

In the end… Its all up to you!

Sincerely,

Nicholas Finnegan

Life secret on a drunken bus ride!

Life sucks! Why does everything have to suck! Why does this always have to happen to me!?? Life sucks!

This is the sort of attitude I had towards life before I figured out another secret of self esteem success that im about to share with you…

When I was about 18 I got very drunk and started talking to myself on the way home. I was on the bus, it was 3.00 am, there was only one other person on the bus sitting across from me, she was a middle aged woman looking out of the window.

“life is shit!” I screamed! “why cant I just die!”

Little did I know she was about to show me the path to revealing yet another secret…

After speaking to her for a while and then getting off the bus I came to be in walking distance from my house. Pondering on what she said, feeling very disoriented – I walked into my front door, ran down the stairs to my room, took out my note book and started writing another secret down…

This is what she told me, written down in my own words at the age of 18 years old while I was still drunk…

When you think about which direction you are heading in life, which one is it? Forward or backward?

I am guessing that you are gaining in life and moving forward, otherwise you wouldn’t be here reading this as you take in more knowledge and becoming happier in life.

Now… as you begin to move towards your goals, you may find yourself getting close to them as each day goes by, whether if you achieve massive accomplishments or small accomplishments alike.

And there is also a way to speed up this process and make it more fun…

How?

Simply by realizing for yourself that creating what you want “is a never ending process” Meaning up until now you have already chosen to move towards what you really want, haven’t you? So you will only become more stronger from now on, whether if its a little bit at a time or massive action.

This should be a relief!

It doesn’t matter what setbacks you are going through now or what you were going through in the past because becoming stronger “is forever an ongoing process” and you are always moving forward and learning from your experiences into the future.

So you can never lose!

As you think about accepting this principle and and having a willingness to move through the world with it, how much more easier does life become as you realize you are always participating in “a forever ongoing process of future growth!”

It is inevitable that you will only become more of who you are as you have already chosen to move towards what you want

Life is “a forever future ongoing process of growth”, so allow your frustrations to melt away and realize for yourself that you are always becoming more of who you are no matter what happens each and everyday!

As you think about your life in this way, how much more are you willing to grow and allow success to naturally unfold ahead of you.

Your possibility of awareness is always expanding!

– END

To your success

Sincerely,

Nicholas Finnegan