I received a question from a client who asked me “How can I attract girls effortlessly?”
The only way you can attract girls into your life is by practising processes.
Everything you want to learn about attracting girls are made up of different processes. You must learn what the correct processes of successful men who already attract girls are, to be able to duplicate these same results for yourself.
These processes (or emotional behaviours) could be made up of different formulas that allow you to create love, connection, trust, fun, passion, sexual stimulation… etc…
To be able to create these emotional responses in the women you like… you must be able to mould your energy, your communication, your behaviours, your attitudes, your style into something that actually works for you long term.
You should be able to recall what you did in the past and how you did it, what you said or how you responded to her. By gathering up all this information you realize you already own processes that allow women to like you… if you could train yourself to do it all over again, the outcomes will start to become more effortless for you.
If you are currently having some trouble, it only means you have not figured out what you should learn to go beyond your current success with girls.
To go beyond… you must learn new processes that allow you to take things to a whole new level.
Try the following exercise…
1. Imagine you are standing in front of the girl you want to attract
2. imagine there is a beam of love travelling from your heart to hers.
3. Imagine there is another beam of mutual respect going from your head to hers
4. Imagine both of those beams glowing brightly
5. Hold her hands and feel gratitude between the both of you for coming into eachothers life.
This exercise will allow you to create a powerful vibration between you and the woman you want to like you better.
You see, if you really want women to like you, you must be able to make women feel good – but you must also feel good about yourself while you are doing it.
This exercise helps you to unlock your ability to connect with women more naturally.
Once you are able to do this, a natural connection will begin to form between you, allowing you to mutually enjoy your relationship.
There are also more formulas for you to learn…
All the best in your love life,
P.S. To learn more beliefs, attitudes, patterns and emotional processes that allow you to create powerful emotions in the women you like.. go here..
I have received many emails regarding what types of people you should look for in a relationship – and what types of people you should stay away from…
When you look for a relationship, you want to make sure that you stay away from two types of people…
The first type of person you want to stay away from, are people who are negative and also have strong personalities at the same time… these types of people will cause you to feel degraded.
Many of their qualities are based upon making people feel inferior to themselves. If you can’t put up with all that drama and the arguments, then there is absolutely no point committing yourself to these types of people.
They aggressively impose their own beliefs on people to validate themselves.
The second type of person you want to stay away from are loving sensitive types, these types of people have good hearts but are also hurt easily.
Many of their qualities are based upon a victim mindset or suffering complexes. They want to be loving people, but on some level they feel dominated by the world and can’t reach their fullest potential.
Often times you will spend most of your energy making them feel better about themselves, instead of finding the best possible outcomes for both of you… so you can easily move forwards.
The type of person you want to be in a relationship with, is a well rounded person… someone who has a good strong personality and who is also positive at the same time.
They know what they want and also know who they are… and if you can find someone like this, you will always have someone you can rely upon long term.
You should be able to spot their confidence within themselves and also their self esteem … they should also have goals in their life.
Now here comes the tricky lesson…
If you are loving person who is also hurt easily… it will be very difficult for you to find a well rounded person unless they are willing to emotionally support you.
If you are the type of person who has a strong personality but is also negative… it will be very difficult for you to find a well rounded person because they have to constantly put up with you.
If you have these qualities yourself, you should sort these out because it becomes alot easier to find relationships with well rounded people, if you also radiate this same time of energy aswell.
So learn to stop yourself when you feel any urge to put someone down. Speak from a place that makes people feel better about themselves.
Support yourself emotionally and learn to express your personality openly, without any self restrictions
Allow people to be who they want to be, without any judgemental thoughts about who you think they should be.
Learn to practice positive thinking, think positive thoughts about yourself, your life and also people.
Once you develop yourself into a well rounded person, many people will feel more attracted towards you and they will want to join you in your quality of life.
Best of luck,
A friend of mine who has been having trouble with relationships was tired of being hurt.
She starting to learn what to look for in a relationship and the new standards that her potential partners should uphold with her.
But she came to me with something the other day… she said…
“Love is when someone does not emotionally hurt you.”
However, you should not base love on not being hurt, rather you should generalize love as being showed respect, generosity, caring, appreciation… etc… love is a demonstration of love, not a demonstration of not being hurt.
If you fell over and got a cut, it would not mean somebody loves you if they didn’t put acid on your wound, it would only mean they love you if they bandaged you up.
In relationships (no matter how perfect they are,) you will always potentially get hurt because no relationship is absolutely perfect, but it’s your ability to pick up your relationship, help each-other and support each-other in difficult times is what makes your relationships meaningful.
Love is a demonstration of loving somebody as much as you love yourself.
Just because your potential partner does not hurt you, it does not necessarily mean they love you.
Look out for the signs that display love instead – the types of qualities that would allow you to feel good with your potential partner and hold onto those potential partners.
Find somebody who will treat you well, not somebody who will not treat you bad. This is true for men and women alike.
People want to be happy but they are not willing to do what it takes to be happy… Why?
“I hate my life…!”
Then you would give them a solution and they would reply…
“I can’t be bothered… !”
Well if you can’t be bothered to do the things that would potentially make yourself happy, then what do you expect? Obviously your life is going to stay the same unless you change your daily habits!
If you want to be successful, happy or free yourself from life troubles… you should do whatever it takes to make those things happen, after all this is YOUR life and you are the only one who is responsible for it.
Nobody is going to magically come into your life and change everything for you, but I promise you, by putting in the right effort and self love over time, you will see gradual improvements and you will start to feel proud about yourself and your daily accomplishments.
You should always take the time to check into yourself and ask yourself…
“How do I feel?”
“Is my life going in the right direction?”
“Am I looking after myself properly?”
Your entire life is built upon your daily thoughts, feelings and actions… and also how those thoughts, feelings and actions effect you as a whole.
Do not ignore your dissatisfaction anymore… do not ignore important parts of yourself! Fulfil those parts of yourself and you will transform how you look at yourself and what you believe about yourself.
You are worth it and you deserve to be happy… so make sure you treat yourself in ways that reflect that. Live up to a higher quality of life for yourself, and this new higher standard will gradually become a part of your natural reality.
Start to ‘be bothered’ about your life, take care of yourself and you will feel good about your life over time.
All the best for yourself,
P.S. If you put yourself down all day you will feel horrible, but if you encourage yourself and push yourself to improve your life, it will slowly get better!
Do you live how you really want to live in this present moment?
We all have specific ideas about how we want to live our lives, the main problem is that many people do not make the decision to start living their lives in this way right now.
Instead, those people dream about how they would like to live, but they don’t take the necessary steps to achieve that type of life-style.
Living the type of life-style you want, allows you to create the results you really want. If you were already successful… who would you hang around with? What would you think about yourself? What would you do on a daily basis…?
It makes total sense for you to start doing those things right now… and you will ultimately be living the type of life you want to live.
If you laze around all day, you will only create results according to that type of life-style. If you want to fully enjoy your life, work with passion and love your friends and family… you should be doing all of this right now.
Do not wait for something outside of yourself to make you live the life you really want, instead, think about how you would like to live and start to live that way right now.
1. Think about your ideal day…
How would you feel when you wake up?
What types of people do you communicate with?
What are you involved in that you are passionate about?
What hobbies do you do during your day?
What stimulates your mind and body?
How do you feel when you go to sleep?
Practice your daily lifestyle every single day and live the life you constantly dream of… Today…!
P.S. To take full advantage of this present moment – to live your life according to what you want every single day… go here…
Have you ever taken quality time to question yourself about who you really are and what your life is really about?
You should discover who you are because the relationship you have with yourself is an important relationship…
People who don’t learn anything about themselves allow other people to tell them how they should live and who they should become.
Questioning your beliefs, your identity and your authentic self, is how you take true control over who you are as a person.
Without questioning yourself, you are just travelling along a road without any real purpose in life.
Take some time to ask yourself the following questions – be patient with yourself and discover yourself deeper as a human being…
What is your purpose in life?
Who are you really?
How can you make your life work properly?
Why are you alive?
What do you believe in?
What type of person do you want to become?
What difference can you find between doing right from wrong?
What do you see when you look in the mirror every morning?
What effect do you want to have on other people?
If you continue to do what you are doing now, where would you be 5 years from now?
How can you feel more alive every day?
What is the meaning of life?
Where are you going in your life?
What part do you want to contribute to the world we live in?
What is the most powerful experience you have had with God? (even if you don’t believe in God)
How could you treat yourself better in your life?
These questions will stimulate your mind and allow you to think about who you really are and what you really want.
Spend some time to think about all these questions deeply… It will allow you to increase your understanding about yourself.
Keep digging over a period of time… your life will get clearer!
Your life is important – so is understanding yourself and who you want to become. Always nurture the relationship you have with yourself.
All the best in life,
P.S. To get a deeper understanding about yourself – in ways that allow you to build more self esteem and self realization… go here…
I recently got interviewed by the founder of People Building (Gemma Bailey) and today I would like to share this interview with you.
This interview focuses on the subject of past, present and future and how we can utilize these three important time frames to improve the quality of our lives.
To download go here…
I really enjoyed being interviewed by Gemma and I hope you find some valuable information you can use to enhance your life from this podcast.
Thank you for listening and enjoy the rest of your day.
For more from Gemma visit:
Here is the download link again…
All the best,